FEAR

Better known as false evidence appearing real! We all have it from time to time.

Fear is like a robber. It robs us of peace of mind and being truly present for ourselves and those we love.


Fear can immobolize our efforts. Where in your life are you experiencing fear? e.g. in a relationship, business, etc.? On a scale from 1-10; 10 being the highest. Where would you rate yourself? Then answer the following statement. My biggest fear is that.... Check in with yourself is this true for you? Is the fear rational or irrational?

I love the phrase, "When in doubt, check it out." By simply sharing with someone you trust, you can reduce your fear to pint size which is much more manageable.

A close friend of mine just called saying, "what should I do my boss is taking me for lunch and I know our company isn't thriving right now?" He quickly went into the worst case scenario of what might happen. He wanted to do all this major preparation however he didn't even know what the reason was for his boss taking him to lunch. Ever push the panic button and assume the worst? We then went on to talk about whether he was letting his fear drive him or whether he CHOSE to be in a place of positive possibility. He was able to replace his fear with faith that everything would work out better than he ever could have imagined. He was proactive by calling me versus sitting in his fear and letting it have unnecessary power over his thoughts and emotions.

When fear appears in your life, other options include remaining in a place by breathing deeply, choosing positive thoughts and remaining in a place of calmness. A simple affirmation, "I am calm, I am enough, I am worthy" will insulate you from unnecessary negativity. Lastly, surround yourself with people who energize, support and nurture your spirit for they will feed your faith that everyone you meet is here to support your powerful journey!

COOL CONNECTIONS!

If your primary connection with your kids is to text or email them, you may want to reconnect in a more healthy way. The same holds true with your colleagues. I know you have 128 emails that you need to respond to and 10 of those are family, but in the long run your relationships will be all the better for it.

Remember the last time a friend, colleage or family member just "dropped in" to say hello and connect? How did that feel for you? Aren't some of the best visits those that are spontaneous and without an agenda. Our society is in a serious connection crisis! We are so quick to judge the parent for smoking in the same car as their children, however, we sit across from our family at the restaurant accepting yet another call or responding "just this once" to our black berry. Isn't this a form of neglect too? Signs that we have let the scale go too far? Your kid starts skipping school or failing his grades to finally get your attention or your colleague starts to avoid replying to your emails because you didn't even take the time to visit when his wife was seriously ill.

Let's try an experiment. Leave your black berry or whatever device you have at home when you go out on a date with your spouse/family/friends. No issue here you said? We have become so connected to our technology that we forgot how to connect in person with the people that matter most. A habit I have been doing for some time is doing a nightly inventory where I ask myself have I truly been available as a parent/spouse/relative/friend/colleague?

I would like to revise the statement that we frequently hear to, "Treat your family like you do your clients. Treat your clients like family. Happy connecting!