I find this time of year exciting! I thoroughly enjoy reflecting on my past year as well as creating my goals for the next year. Before you start your "new beginnings" perhaps consider doing this exercise first.
1. Make a list of all the goals you did achieve last year;include wins big and small.
2. Where did you build character due to relationship challenges?
3. Where did you try something new or stretch yourself?
4. What ways did you do self care? e.g. day off, special treatments, meditation, etc.
As you fill your heart with gratitude you will be reminded of the brave, powerful and loving human being that you are. When your heart is right,your world is right. This confidence will be a great spring board to creating your goals for 2012.
There are numerous systems to create your goals:
i) Vision/Dream Board- series of pictures, words, phrases(brain sees pictures first)
ii) Write goals in 7 environment areas: Health, Wealth, Personal, Relationships,
Recreation/Leisure Time, Community, Career
Add a line "Scorecard: your key 3 Action steps to achieve that main goal"
iii)Begin affirmation goals with I am celebrating(feeling)........
iv) Use a white board
v) Record your goals so you can constantly hear them on your MP3, CD, etc.
Regardless of which method you choose "just do it" as Nike says. Remember when you write it down you increase your chances of attracting that goal by 70%. External reminders keep us on track to achieiving the success you deserve.
Cheers to a successful 2012!
Cate
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
When it's time to let go
It was March break last week and I was pumped and so was my 16 year old son. I had always taken time off to spend quality time with my son and our family. So as I picked him up from his visit with his dad. I said why don't we go to a funky coffee house to have hot chocolate or something to kick start his holiday! He didn't miss a beat when he said, "Mom I am not one of your 30 year old friends. I want to be with my friends over March break not my mother." Actually, he had me at 30 year old friends considering I am in my 40's.
Where in your life has a comment or decision you made so obvious to everyone else that you just need to get with the times and let go of the old way of doing things? e.g. at work when you used to do things a certain way, with the your old spending habits that don't fit the economy today, your relationships that keep changing even when we don't notice?
For me the signs that you need to let go are when you are experiencing resistance in a relationship where one person is showing you with their behavior that they aren't on the same page as you. Sometimes people will avoid us, withdraw, become argumentative, forget to show up and you can add your own. The key is where in your life do you need to let go? Do you need to stop working so many hours at work because this is the third cold you have had in 2 months? Your kid is giving you the cold shoulder because you just don't get them? Where you keep expecting that friend to do the same things as last year when they clearly don't want to?
The key to letting go is to simply start by acknowledging that you may need to let go. Then you need to learn how to be willing to try to let go. Sometimes you might need to fake it until you make it. Remember you need not personalize these normal stages of change in any relationship. Then think about what might other people do to let go and be willing to try something different. Acknowledge to yourself and the other person the need for change. Accept that it will feel foreign for awhile. Be sure to talk with other people that have gone through similar changes and finally create an action plan on how you will let go. e.g. I will set a weekly behavior goal that demonstrates I am changing e.g. focus through the present lens in the area that needs changing; work, relationships, etc.
Most importantly, have fun because change and letting go is good for all of us. It can only enhance our relationships at work and home to being better.
Where in your life has a comment or decision you made so obvious to everyone else that you just need to get with the times and let go of the old way of doing things? e.g. at work when you used to do things a certain way, with the your old spending habits that don't fit the economy today, your relationships that keep changing even when we don't notice?
For me the signs that you need to let go are when you are experiencing resistance in a relationship where one person is showing you with their behavior that they aren't on the same page as you. Sometimes people will avoid us, withdraw, become argumentative, forget to show up and you can add your own. The key is where in your life do you need to let go? Do you need to stop working so many hours at work because this is the third cold you have had in 2 months? Your kid is giving you the cold shoulder because you just don't get them? Where you keep expecting that friend to do the same things as last year when they clearly don't want to?
The key to letting go is to simply start by acknowledging that you may need to let go. Then you need to learn how to be willing to try to let go. Sometimes you might need to fake it until you make it. Remember you need not personalize these normal stages of change in any relationship. Then think about what might other people do to let go and be willing to try something different. Acknowledge to yourself and the other person the need for change. Accept that it will feel foreign for awhile. Be sure to talk with other people that have gone through similar changes and finally create an action plan on how you will let go. e.g. I will set a weekly behavior goal that demonstrates I am changing e.g. focus through the present lens in the area that needs changing; work, relationships, etc.
Most importantly, have fun because change and letting go is good for all of us. It can only enhance our relationships at work and home to being better.
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