Defined by your position?

Ever find that people treat you in accordance to your position? If you are a therapist people want free advice even at social gatherings? An executive, people put you on a pedastill and are wanting leads? One leader was quoted as saying "I have had more people lie to me since I was promoted to this position."
The key is how do you want to be treated? There is a great phrase that says, "it is your job to teach others how to treat you?" If your experience is that people are talking  more to your position or status than you as a person, than it's time to "show them the way."
In some parts of Europe asking what a person does for a living is an insult.
The more you can be the change you want to see in the world the better.
Keep your authentic friends close, to remind you that you are very much a part of the human race.
In my upcoming book, The TRUTH behind the Suit: Discover the Man inside with the female version to follow, the dynamic male leaders I interviewed shared creative ways to tackle this issue.
One shared "keeping it real" was important for him. The more he was authentic about how he felt the more people kept him on the same level. Another said that his focus is more on making good decisions each day versus getting caught up on how others saw him. Another shared that his support system and family was where he stayed grounded. One leader declined the expensive lunches and dinners to avoid "being bought" for future favors. He kept his eye on the ball versus on winning votes.
The key is to invest in the man or woman inside your position. The dividends will clearly pay off!

Make the Decision already

Ever get tired of the ping pong match in your head that can go on for hours, days or even months about making a decision? Indecision causes you to be stuck, frustrated, unsure of yourself and will zap your energy. Let's go one step deeper; what is behind the indecision. For most, it is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of making the wrong decision. Fear of making the right decision. Fear of what others will think of you. Fear of conflict that may arise from your decision. Someone said that Resentment is about not getting what you wanted yesterday, Anger is about not getting what you want today and Fear is about worrying about not getting what you want in the future. The Truth will set you free. It may not be popular however if it is your truth you owe it to yourself to claim it.
Here are 10 powerful tips to guide you through the battlefield in your head:
1. Stop
2. Take a deep Breath
3. What are you pretending Not to know?
4. If low risk=high risk; who is being most affected by your indecisiveness?
5. "What are you most afraid of when you make this decision?"
6. What is the root distorted belief? e.g. "I am not good enough. I am not worthy."
7. Is this B.S. (belief system) working for you?
8. Rate yourself on the willingness to change scale from 1-10; 10 being high(ready
to do whatever it takes because you refuse to be paralyzed anymore)
9. What number do you want to be to make that decision?
10.Do it! Create an action plan(include a support person,(coach),focus on your next
right steps to achieve your ultimate decision, and a mind set of staying open,
regular pep talks with yourself to move through the uncomfortable feelings and
the constant reminder that you are so worth it. Because you are.